We are all in the gripe of some kind of prism thru which we see reality.
Often couples, when they’re busy fighting with each other, they are reenacting things that happened to them in the past.
Their trauma is holding them hostage to a very particular way of interpreting reality.
It can so easily make people see only part of reality because they are in the grip of this unconscious frame. If you can see more, you are free from those patterns. Suddenly the world opens.
— Oma Guralnik in Couples Therapy, S4-Ep8